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Small Group Priority: Time.

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The human heart was never intended to do intimacy in microwave fashion. When relationships are required to operate in excessive megahertz there are usually excessive mega-hurts! Look around and see the fallout of lives where taking time was not priority.

We live in a microwave, fast lane, express culture where ‘blur’ is the natural perspective and ‘rush’ the natural rhythm of life. In this vortex of activity, money has been replaced by time as the principle premium commodity of value. Whoever said Rome wasn’t built in a day didn’t live in the 21st century where ‘fast’ is the new ‘slow’ and innovation lags behind invention!

We actually have been conditioned to believe that we can actually do all things in the shortest period of time possible. But while industry thrives on production in less time, intimacy never will. The human heart was never intended to do intimacy in microwave fashion. When relationships are required to operate in excessive megahertz there are usually excessive mega-hurts! Look around and see the fallout of lives where taking time was not priority.

Churches can sometimes be notorious in reflecting the culture too much and reinforcing the chaotic rhythms of life to the beat of a manic metronome. One of the best gifts we can give to each other is time — time to process the groanings of our heart; time to hear and be heard; time to care and be cared for. Time to hear the voice of God and actually deal with the “now what” of it rather than the “what’s next?” It only takes a few moments to absorb content into the mind, but it takes time to apply the intent of that content to the soul.

Dynamic, transformational small groups discourage and outlaw a “drive-thru” Christianity and favor more a “drive-in and park” environment. They give and take time to hear the whisper of the still small voice of God as well as the murmurs of the hearts in response to that Word as they all bring their chaos-riddled lives to it. Honoring time gives everyone in the group time to better “know and be known” with the understanding that such revelations gained can stabilize one’s life when they reengage the frenzy of real world obligations.

Practicing this healthy priority can be expressed in several ways.

First, avoid the trap of responding to each other in Bible studies with only answers to the questions on the page. Take time to read between the lines by seeking to discuss how the truths they encountered impact real life…their real life. In my small group, when I take the husbands into another room after our group has studied together, I start off by asking the question, “How does what we have just studied and discussed affect us as fathers, husbands and men?” Small groups must consecrate time during the study to allow for the ‘rubber to hit the road.’ This is one of the ways Scripture can be experienced as the Living Word of God for life.

Second, do not allow your formal meetings to be the exclusive venue of interaction. So much of life happens in the informal and in-between gatherings. For our group, periodically we will schedule breakfasts, lunches, or game nights where we hang out and bear down on whatever comes up. These times are especially effective in creating friendship and community where there is no other agenda than that.Keep in mind that this does not mean that all members need to attend. As long as there is at least one other person, time can be well spent if the goal is developing deeper friendship.

Third, observe a combination of the previous 2. Use informal, in between times to follow-up on things said and discovered during the formal gathering. In this way people can know that they have been heard and that what they said really mattered. This can happen at a restaurant, bowling alley, or coffee shop but can also take place on the phone or via email (though probably not Facebook!) The point here is to take time to connect with one another’s hearts and minds in a way that fosters friendship.

Individual Christ-follower: are you taking the initiative to connect with a member of your group outside of the group meeting times in meaningful ways? Don’t wait for the leader to do this for you. Step up and out and make time for a group member!

Small Group Leader: are you encouraging and facilitating times for your members to be together in significant ways? Have you considered using one of your times you study the Bible as opportunities to “study one another”?


Small Group Priority: Truth

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True Christ followers diligently explore and honestly encounter God in His Word, and through their obedience to His Word become more devoted representatives and reflections of Christ.

Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.” John 8:31-32

Far from some vague, relative, philosophical abstraction of reality, Jesus makes it quite clear: to be His disciple requires that they follow His teaching, considered absolute Truth. It stands to reason that one cannot hold to a teaching that they have not learned.

As we look at this first essential of small groups, TRUTH refers to the priority the community of faith places on their ‘listening’ to its Leader Himself, Jesus Christ, who proclaimed Himself to be, among other things, Truth (John 14:6). His disciples hear Him best when their hearts and lives are open to His Word, the Holy Scripture.

Those who so intend, so incline their H.EA.R.T. to His Word in the following ways:

Hearing – They make themselves available to others who teach and preach truth based on Scripture. There has never been a time where this has be more accessible beyond sitting in a church service. Now we can listen to sermons, teachings, lectures, devotionals through radio, TVs, CDs, DVDs, podcasts, and streaming audio/video via the internet. Apart from the absence of technology and freedom to receive biblical truth (as denied in many countries banning such), there is no excuse for any believer to not access the Word of God through these mediums.

Examining – They take time to read Scripture carefully, thoughtfully, systematically and consistently to familiarize themselves with the heart and mind of God as revealed in His Word to them. The simple objective here is to know what He said. Each of the 66 books of the Bible, read from their individual beginnings to ends, is a manuscript record of His divine self-disclosure through inspired men.

Analyzing – They devote time to study God’s Word, seeking to go beyond familiarity to depth of understanding. This practice requires the use of such bible references as bible dictionaries, word studies, handbooks, language lexicons, maps, encyclopedias and commentaries aimed at helping the contemporary followers of Christ now to know what the historical followers meant when they wrote what they did then in response to Christ’s revelation. This is a much more formal practice requiring patience and humility.

Remembering -They devote themselves to cherishing God’s word by taking it to heart, knowing that we remember what is important. When we memorize Scripture, we carry His Word with us, refusing to leave it in a notebook or library or study desk because the place the Word truly belongs and was meant to reside was in our souls and be engraved on our hearts and minds so that we may live according to this living counsel of truth.

Thinking – The follower of Christ practices meditation – focused thinking – on biblical truth seeking to understand and apply spiritual principles to real life in personal ways. If what one remembers is important, then what one thinks about is both foundational and instrumental in affecting one’s mind and then one’s life.

Christ followers personally and interpersonally engage in these with the express purpose of then applying biblical truths and principles to their lives. As they diligently explore and honestly encounter God in His Word, they anticipate and participate in the spiritual transformation of their minds and and hearts as they submit their lives to Christ. They become conformed to the image of Christ through their obedience to His Word. The goal is not to become a stelllar Bible student but a devoted representative and reflection of the Christ who sets us free by His truth.

Many Christians in the world suffer being forbidden to access truth through the Scripture, but any Christian who has access to it, and yet chooses or neglects to discipline themselves to Hearing, Examining, Analyzing, Remembering, Thinking about His Word is disqualified from the greater depths of spiritual maturity available only to those who have a H.E.A.R.T. for Holy Scripture.

Consider also that of the 5 components mentioned, only “hearing” may be considered passive to an extent (though one could certainly make a case for “active listening”). The others must be actively and personally engaged by the Christ follower.

Individual Believer: how often and consistently do you personally, diligently access God’s Word on your own, with the intent not for more information but for greater intimacy and influence from your Master and Lord?

Small Group Leader: to what degree do you challenge, model and encourage your members to pursue the truth that is so readily available in and between your meeting times?


5 Priorities for Small Groups.

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5 essentials by which a small group can measure themselves to evaluate their potential of being the kind of faith community where Christ's presence is exalted, Christ's power is experienced, and Christ's purpose is expressed.

I have participated in, led or overseen small groups in some form since I was in high school. I have seen a variety of iterations, philosophies, movements, paradigms, ad infinitum. As a church leader, I have reconfigured, recast, retooled, restarted, and retired groups based on the call for effectiveness toward transformation. Though there have been a lot of changes, there has also been some consistent elements that keep coming to the surface for me and represent the “city on the hill” of what this venue of transformation can be.

It always keeps coming back to my regular reading, meditation and application in the principles of, what I consider, the foundational small group passage in Scripture from Acts 2:42-47.

42They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. 43Everyone was filled with awe, and many wonders and miraculous signs were done by the apostles. 44All the believers were together and had everything in common. 45Selling their possessions and goods, they gave to anyone as he had need. 46Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, 47praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.

I don’t think I shall ever fully understand this passage since their context is so foreign to us here and now in the West, but when I look back on my own history with small groups — groups that worked well or not at all, groups that came close to the ideal and groups that wanted little to do with that dream — I have identified 5 major components or priorities that I see in the portrait of this 1st century biblical community that I believe must be operative in contemporary communities of faith if they are to foster an environment for conducive for transformation.

Truth: letting God speak. This is where participants consistently, diligently, engage in the study, meditation, and application of God’s Word, The Bible, both individually and corporately. The objective is to be faithful and obedient to the Living Word of God in Christ as we submit our lives to His Written Word, the Holy Scriptures.

Transparency: letting people speak. Unless people are free to share what is going on in their lives, intimacy and thus, development as a person or group is impossible. Transparency is where people are encouraged to be truthful about who they are — truthful to God and others. Without this, the truth of God through His Word becomes informational rather than transformational and the small group becomes a gathering of people rather a transformational community of faith, hope and love.

Trust: mutual security in freedom. This essential is risky but must precede transparency in some degree. It is a willingness to assume the goodwill in others and operate on that basis in the offering of myself to those I am involved with. It is to willingly allow others access to the deeper recesses of my life in progressive confidence of their respect of and love for me.

Time: readjusting schedules to facilitate community. Intimacy, like maturity, develops over time, but that time is intentional. Development of character and community must be allowed to occur beyond set time frames and meeting times. We must not merely take time, but make time to love properly and to see others for who they are.

Task: group participation in common ministry projects. People experience a different aspect of growth when they commit themselves to accomplishing something together. This allows for a different part of their personality to emerge and to build better cohesion to the community.

So, for members and leaders of small groups, are you effectively, consistently and intentionally…

…engaging God’s Word individually and corporately in a way that informs and impacts your live with TRUTH?

…taking TIME to be together slowing down enough to hear and know and to find rest in Christ with one another?

…working together to build an atmosphere of TRUST where members can be TRANSPARENT with each other, bringing the truth of their lives into the life of the group?

…working together mutually on a meaningful TASK that enables you to see a different side of yourselves but also celebrate what you can accomplish together as a team?

This is not at all meant to be an exhaustive list but, again, my perspective of the essentials by which a small group can evaluate their potential of being that kind of faith community where Christ’s presence is exalted,  Christ’s power is experienced, and Christ’s purpose is expressed.

(Soon you will be able to click on the “T”s and access an individual post for that particular priority giving you further insights and practical applications as it applies to the small group environment.)


The Transformational Community

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When it comes to small groups, what you put into it and how you do that matter significantly and affects the quality of what comes out an how that impacts the world.

community24When it comes to cake making, what you eat and enjoy is largely dependent on what went into it and how it was put together. I didn’t just revolutionize the annals of culinary excellence with that esoteric revelation because the principle behind that statement may be considered a basic fact of life applicable to so many other facets of life. I don’t believe that simply what you put in is what you get out but more,  “what you put in and how you put it in determines the quality of what comes out.” We now understand that ‘practice doesn’t necessarily make perfect’, but ‘perfect practice’ or high quality practice results in better results.  This is true in business, sports, family, the arts, and…no surprise here…the church, more specifically, the small group community. To be clear, by small group, I am referring to a group of like-minded followers of Christ, at varying stages of spiritual pilgrimage, who commit to doing life together: they embrace His life individually, they share His life corporately, and give away that life to the world sacrificially, with the shared priority of becoming more like Christ.

At my current church, Forest Hill, the basic DNA of community is the holistic integration of 3 main components that facilitate personal and group transformation: CARE-the way we connect to, celebrate and care for one another; GROWTH-our learning and applying biblical truth to our lives; IMPACT-sharing the love of Christ in our community through compassionate service. Quite frankly with the books I’ve read and churches I have visited (clearly not exhaustive) I have yet to see the blend of these three components interwoven into the fabric of biblical community. Clearly, we are not a church who is doing it perfectly, and there are places we need to improve upon and strive to do so, but I do believe we (like many churches) are moving closer to being the kind of 21st Century New Testament church that will honor Christ.

Personally, the bulk of my church experience is more traditional in form: where the church building was the facility center of church life and community impact. Though the Great Commission bids us “Go into all the world and make disciples…” the traditional church, sometimes referred to as the “institutional church”, bids disciples to go into all the world and bring their friends back to the building! That’s a far cry from what I believe Jesus intended for His Church BC (before campuses)….but that’s a whole different topic!

In the more traditional church, transformational community is unfortunately an assumed achievement simply through the ministry of charismatic communicators, successful capital campaigns, impressive campus expansions, and creative, abundant, niche-marketed programming. Simply put: “we built it…they came…and they became.” But even churches, like the mega-church Willow Creek Community, in Illinois, have discovered that simply because ‘we built it and they came’ didn’t mean that they were transformed. Transformation within a church cannot be legitimate at the macro level if it is not being lived out at the micro level — within individuals and the intentional communities they belong to, the small groups.

Being in a church with a somewhat different paradigm, though many similar aspects, I have been able to identify essential ingredients I believe that when added in proportionate amounts, blended and mixed in with spiritual care and intentionality, that they can be catalytic and contributive to a transformational community where Christ is truly honored as Lord and Life. I will share that in a subsequent post, but let me close this one highlighting again that when it comes to small groups, what you put into it and how you do that matter significantly and affects the quality of what comes out an how that impacts the world.

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